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Waiting for The One

How do you decide if the person that you are with will be The One?

This is a rather tough question I think, one that does not have a real solid answer. 

Do you list down all the criteria you look for in a perfect match, and tick them down methodically as you progress through a number of partners, and then decide who scores the highest?

Do you look for someone who can give you the security of a good marriage - good religious upbringing, loving personality, safe relationship? Or do you go on the wild side, and look for someone who makes your world go round, someone who makes sparks fly when you are with them, someone who fills you with the highest level of passion? Is that what you would look for in a marriage?

Of course, ideally, you would want it to be a combination of all the above, but what if you don't get all that, and you had to choose between the two?... 

Or would you let God help you in making that decision... In making impossible to make the choice, until The One indeed comes along?

In the end, I think if you really, really find it difficult, put your trust in God, and he will lead you the way... 

You should not have to compromise when it comes to marriage.

I'm glad I waited for The One...

And I'm glad my sister did too...

May you have a wonderful life ahead of you Sameerah and Bruce.

Congratulations on your wedding, and God Bless...

Comments

Fauziah Ismail said…
Salam Abdullah
I learn that there is no perfect one. Neither is there someone ideal. But someone close to being perfect or ideal is good enough.
As is, I am still looking for an answer to that question. And I am told when the time comes, I will know, with the guidance of the Supreme Being, Insya'Allah.
Congratulations to your sister.
Abdullah said…
Salam Fauziah,
I totally agree with you... And I also think that Insyaallah, if we put our trust in Him, He will pave the way for someone that may not be all you wanted, but Insyallah will be the best for you in this world and the hereafter.

May Allah bless and guide you in your quest.
siraydee said…
Congrats for yet another happy day for your family, sir! ^^

And may there be many more in the future too~
sootsprite said…
end of year....
ramai betul orang kawen
congrats~
i guess perfect for each other is important
but yeah, acceptance is important as well :)
Abdullah said…
Thank you sootsprite...

Actually, acceptance is the most important thing, because there is no such thing as perfect in a marriage..

You're bound to encounter weaknesses in your spouse sooner or later...It's just how you deal with this that really matters :)
Princess Liyana said…
Congratulations to both of them;)huhu...seronok plak tgk org kawin ni..nak kawin gaklah..;p

kidding!jgn percaya i..haha
Abdullah said…
Hehehe... Asyik cakap pasal kawin ni mcm tanda x lama dah nak membujang... ;)
missyizzati said…
he~~~ out of topic, tapi i like ur sister's wedding dress. sangat cantik~~ :P

hurm...a topic which my mind and heart won't allow me to hink about. can't trust myself. haha :D

but i want to be like u too. being able to find my the One. :D
Abdullah said…
Ijat,
it's still too early to think about this I think...just give it time.. Give urself time... Insyaallah, when the time comes, it will come :)
syafiq said…
Sir,
Behalf of kadet 58....
sory coz not send u our email........
ill wil send as soon as posible
Princess Liyana said…
ecece..pandai2 je Sir ni..kalau tkde org msk minang, lama la i membujang .. ;P
A Mother said…
I read somewhere, that, Love is not finding the perfect one, but accepting his imperfections....

something like that.
Abdullah said…
Hey Mother (can I call you by ur other name?) ;)

Long time no see... I was just thinking about you yesterday. How have you been?

I absolutely agree with you...Love is accepting all the imperfections of your other half..
but at the same time, I think the vision of your ideal and the person you end up with should not differ like the sun and the moon.
Anonymous said…
huk..huk..huk....
maicher said…
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kak zainab said…
still waiting for the 'one' dah tua pun...

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